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When lessons go wrong: understanding the gap between reading and true comprehension

Rehana Rutti|Published

Reading is more than absorbing ideas. It’s about letting those ideas shape our choices. True understanding begins when knowledge is transformed into lived experience.

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We’ve All Experienced It “You read something that resonates deeply, nod in agreement, perhaps even highlight a poignant quote. It lingers in your mind, almost like a quiet promise. But then, life offers a subtle test, and suddenly you’re not so sure you passed.”

You misapply the advice. You confuse theory with readiness. You believe you’ve grasped the message, only to discover that practice reveals a different story.

This isn’t failure. It’s a crucial part of the learning process.

I encountered this phenomenon while reading Right Thing Right Now by Ryan Holiday, a book centred on justice, courage and the importance of doing what’s right even when it’s challenging. I thought I understood the concepts. The ideas resonated and the examples struck a chord.

However, life soon presented me with a subtle yet firm pop quiz.

Today I was out for an early dinner when the couple at the next table made a snide remark about our waiter’s accent. It wasn’t loud or overt. Just one of those “harmless” jabs that carries more weight than it should. I felt the tension at the table. I recognised it was wrong. Yet I stayed silent, hoping someone else would speak up. No one did. I didn’t.

Later it struck me. I had read the message, but I hadn’t lived it. The lesson remained on the page. I hadn’t brought it into that restaurant with me.

The Gap Between Reading and Knowing

We often conflate reading with understanding. However, books don’t transform us. Our responses to them do. Sometimes the true lesson only becomes clear after we’ve misapplied it.

That’s when discomfort sets in.

You might wonder. Did I completely miss the point. Was I too eager to appear knowledgeable. Am I all theory and no action.

I recall another instance. After reading a chapter about speaking truth to power, I found myself in a strategy session where a brilliant idea from an opposing team member was dismissed without consideration. I hesitated and by the time I mustered the courage to challenge the dismissal, the moment had passed. My silence made me complicit.

But here’s the silver lining. Misreading is not the end. It’s the beginning of genuine comprehension. The kind that humbles you and leads to deeper insights. The kind that lingers.

Learning, the Long Way Round

Sometimes we need to get it wrong to truly understand it right.

Misunderstanding prompts reflection. It exposes our assumptions. It tests whether our values are genuinely ours or merely borrowed. A lesson that goes awry is still a lesson. One that may come with bruises instead of gold stars.

That’s why books like Right Thing Right Now resonate so deeply. Their full meaning often reveals itself not during reading but in the act of living them—and in recognising the gap between what we know and what we do.

When I revisited the sections I had highlighted, I didn’t feel particularly smart or insightful. Instead I felt honest. Strangely that sense of honesty felt like progress. I could see myself more clearly. Not as someone who failed, but as someone actively engaged in the learning process.

A Different Kind of Growth

So if you’ve ever read a book, embraced its message and still stumbled later, don’t feel ashamed. That’s not hypocrisy. That’s humanity. The space between knowing better and doing better is where true growth resides.

Read again. Reflect again. Get it wrong and try again.

That’s how understanding evolves into wisdom.