Failing matric can feel devastating for your child because it's often seen as a major milestone in life, with societal pressure amplifying its importance.

In South Africa, matric represents a gateway to further education or employment opportunities and failing can make someone feel like they've let themselves or their family down.

Additionally, your child's peers may have passed, making him feel left behind, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy, shame and depression.

How you can help your child if they have failed matric:

Reassure them: Let your child know that failing matric is not the end of the world. Share examples of successful people who experienced setbacks but persevered. Remind them that his worth is not defined by this one moment.

Open communication: Create a safe space where they can express their feelings without fear of judgment. Encourage them to talk about their disappointment and fears and actively listen to what they say.

Focus on mental health: Watch for signs of depression, such as withdrawal, persistent sadness, changes in sleep or appetite or a lack of interest in things that they once enjoyed.

Consider professional support if needed, such as a counsellor or therapist, to help them navigate their feelings.

Explore options together:

Rewrite matric: Many institutions and schools offer opportunities to rewrite the matric exams. Pupils prepare with extra support and improve their results.

Alternative paths: Look into vocational training, bridging courses or other educational pathways that do not require matric. Some fields like IT, hospitality or entrepreneurship offer routes to success without traditional qualifications.

Part-time jobs: If they feel ready, part-time work can provide structure and self-esteem while they decide on their next steps.

Set goals and a plan: Help your child set achievable short-term goals to rebuild their confidence. A clear plan for the future, whether it’s studying further or pursuing a passion, can give them hope.

Be patient and positive: Let them grieve the loss of what they hoped for but gently encourage your child to move forward. Your unwavering support and belief in them will mean a lot.